This was somebody’s online dating headline referencing the old asop’s fable about the ant who worked all summer and stored food and the grasshopper who laughed and played and was merry until the winter came along.
I was thinking about it as I read their online profile an as a frugal dater I have to admit that I’m an ant.
This made me think back on some of the ladies I’ve been out with recently and the conversations I’ve had over a few drinks. Some of them tell me about their latest vacations and they remember about half (because the rum took away the other half). And the less that they remember the more better the vacation.
One of these days all of these grasshoppers are going to need an ant that saved something for a rainy day. What scares me the most are the ones that will just turn on the charm, the big smile, have on the low cut shirt and once they’ve gone through what you’ve saved for your “rainy” day then all the sudden things just don’t feel right any more.
Luckily I had this experience early in my dating years and the scar it left (although healed) left an impression to walk with a step of caution going forward. Is that totally fair to every other person that I’ve gone out with since then, because they couldn’t have a totally clean slate to be judged on only the things they’ve done and said? I’m going to say yes and here’s why: as we all gain days we also gain our own experiance which we use to make the judgements that will effect our future.
Good judgement comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment.
Now could you ever convert a grasshopper to an ant? I stopped trying to change people, because it simple never works and only leads to fustration. There’s compromises you can come to that each can live with but if your thinking that you can get someone to do a 180 degree turn with a little time and effort I have yet to see it happen for either sex without resentment rear its ugly head in the end.
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