The Frugal Dater

A few months back somebody turned me on to a link for a new kind of online dating site that made the rest of them do kind of a 180 spin. It was called herway.com and as a guy you are not allowed to initiate the conversation. You simply place up your profile and wait for the women to contact and show interest in you.

Now I’ve done online dating for a long time, longer then I probably should admit and this totally reverses the way things happen these days where you have to take a shotgun approach to finding a date online.  Because women get so many messages (especially on the free dating sites) you can’t just write messages to the 1 or 2 ladies that catch your eye. If you do that and they don’t respond because your message gets lost in the other 50 pieces of mail they get per day then your confidence will be shot to nothing in no time. This site has the women take all the action and first steps on the men they find interesting.

As a guy you can’t even search through the profiles because as they put it… At HerWay the ladies do the searching.

I filled out the profile back in January I think and heard nothing from that site, and it wasn’t until June that I actually got notified that someone was interested in my profile. (Actually I forgot that I had even posted something on this site and just though it was going to be another dot.com bomb. )  They do give you little graphs as a man though about what your click through rate is and what your conversion rate is (mine was low low low, lol) and just so you have a baseline on how you’re doing they show you on the same graph Average Joe and how he’s doing

I will say that the 2 women that contacted me so far seem to be a higher quality of woman as far as education, income levels go.  Since I’ve yet to go out with anyone from this site I can only speak to what’s on their profiles.

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